Lost Your Spark? 4 Questions to Get Reconnected with Your Reason
A few years ago, my coach shared an idea with me that shifted how I see myself and my work….
What’s Holding You Back? The Four Fears That Shape Men’s Lives
Most of us move through midlife driven by forces we don’t fully understand. Sometimes we sense anxiety, restlessness, or a…
What Am I Asking of Others That I Need to Be Doing for Myself?
James Hollis poses a powerful question for anyone in midlife: “What am I asking of the other, that I need…
Life Never Unfolds the Way We Think It Will
If you’d asked me 20 years ago where I’d be living today, I would have confidently said California. At the…
Insight Is Just the Beginning: The Slow Work of Self-Transformation
Insight alone rarely changes us. This truth may seem disheartening at first, but it must be accepted for growth to…
Is It My Ego Talking? A Guide for Men at Midlife
Midlife is a curious chapter. For much of life, we’ve been in a season of building—careers, families, identities. This outward…
Whose Life Are You Living?
As men at midlife, we generally find ourselves restless, dissatisfied, or struggling with questions we can’t quite articulate. Beneath these…
Succeeding at Midlife Means Choosing Anxiety
Buddhism teaches us that life is suffering. James Hollis builds on this timeless wisdom with a stark but liberating insight:…
How to Create Movement at Midlife: Jung’s Wisdom on Opposites
For most of my life, I’ve identified as a person of depth. Complexity energizes me. Whether diving into interpersonal dynamics…
2025: The Year of the Truth Meter
The long-awaited Year of the Truth Meter is here! Unlike anything external—a gadget or a tool—the truth meter is universal,…
Behind the Curtain: The Hidden Secrets Men Carry (Part 3)
Over the past two weeks, we’ve explored the hidden truths shaping the lives of men, drawing on James Hollis’s insights…
Behind the Curtain: The Hidden Secrets Men Carry (Part 2)
We’ve previous began to peel back the layers of the hidden truths men carry—secrets that shape our lives in powerful…
A Look Behind the Curtain: The Hidden Secrets Men Carry (Part 1)
As men, we carry burdens we rarely name or even recognize. Beneath the surface of our outward lives—our work, our…
The Ironic Gifts of Midlife
Midlife is hard. There’s no way around it. The unease, the questions, the disconnection—it can feel like a never-ending storm…
Redefining Sensitivity: A Hidden Strength in Midlife
“Sensitivity is a superpower. It allows you to see what others can’t, feel what others avoid, and understand with a…
Embracing the Gift of Suffering: Midlife’s Surprising Teacher
“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and…
The Midlife Shadow and Our Political Divide
As I move through midlife, I find that some of the most challenging work I’m called to do is to…
Are You Ready to Make the Turn?
There comes a point in every man’s life when he begins to sense a shift—a pull toward something deeper, more…
Navigating Shifting Relationships at Midlife: A Natural (and Scary) Transition
Relationships are one of the hardest things for me at midlife, and something I reflect on regularly. Friendships and activities…
Embracing Uncertainty is a Sign of Growth
As men in midlife, many of us feel a weight: the sense that we should have everything figured out by…